Advice for Negotiators at Thanksgiving
Four years ago, I wrote a Negotiators Guide to Thanksgiving Conversations and eight years ago I wrote a column thanking negotiators for exhibiting certain effective traits that make all our negotiations better. Here are three more effective negotiator traits to be...
Dealing with Surprises in Negotiations
I’m a planner, as a core element of what I teach involves creating Strategic Negotiation Plans based on the experts’ proven research. To implement proven negotiation strategies in a systematic, disciplined way, you must plan and think it through before you pick...
The Power of Pattern Bargaining
I remember taking a labor history course in college years ago that opened my eyes to the hostile and contentious record of union-management negotiations going back to the advent and growth of unions in the late 19th and early 20th century. Violence was not that...
Expert Negotiation Advice for $0 to $300
“What should I do? I have a significant upcoming negotiation. Ideally, I would hire you to consult with me on it. But I just can’t afford your fee. What’s the next best, lower cost option for me?” I get this question fairly frequently. Here’s my answer, which I...
3 Tips for Negotiating With Medical Professionals
My Dad was recovering from emergency surgery to his abdominal area about 8 years ago when one of the hospital’s physicians told us that a blood clot had formed in his arm just below his shoulder. The doctor told us we had two options, neither of them good. She said he...
Negotiation Lessons from Korea’s “Nunchi”
Do you know the Korean concept of “nunchi” and how it can help transform a good negotiator to a great negotiator? I didn’t – until I read the New York Times article “The Korean Secret to Happiness and Success” by author Euny Hong. Nunchi, according to Hong, is...
Trust Matters
Republican Members of Congress Matt Gaetz (R-FL) and Tim Burchett (R-TN) were two of the eight Republican Members of Congress who ousted House Speaker Kevin McCarthy last week. One of their chief stated complaints, if not the primary one, was their inability to...
Above & Beyond: Developing Customer Loyalty
What did we do? We pulled everyone in on Saturday and worked all weekend to get the job done. Frankly, we could have charged them a ton as we had strong leverage. But we didn’t. They were a good customer. And they’ve been a great and loyal customer ever since, even...
Shaking Hands Helps in Negotiations
My wife sometimes reminds me to avoid shaking hands with people I meet if they exhibit signs of being sick, like sniffling or coughing. But this is tough for me, as it’s just an ingrained habit I’ve had for 40 years. It turns out that this habit can actually...
To Kill a Mockingbird: An Application of Negotiation Judgment
Our kids tend to be rule-followers, which is perhaps not surprising as my wife and I tend to be more rule-breakers. Not big ones, but I do have a lead foot. I was reminded of this recently when I rewatched the classic movie To Kill a Mockingbird with Gregory Peck,...