I was recently debating a public policy issue with my 15-year-old son, who has recently become enamored with a view quite different from my own. As the back-and-forth wound down without either of us substantially changing our opinions, he said he had “won” the debate....
Top Tips for Negotiating with Screamers “What should you do if your counterpart loses it and starts yelling? Does reason and rationality even matter at that point?” Almost all of us have faced this issue, which was raised by a recent virtual training program attendee....
As we put 2020 in our rearview mirror, here’s my annual list of lessons learned and a reminder to put these strategies into practice in 2021. You won’t get better results unless you implement them. Each guiding principle also has a link to my column with more...
My 15-year-old son recently said “everyone just wants more money” in salary. I disagreed. In fact, I told him, millions of people accept jobs that pay less in order to get more in non-financial benefits, like job satisfaction, time off, flex time, job security,...
My wife says I’m driving her crazy. I’ve been cooped up working from home and off the road since mid-March, a common predicament during this pandemic. I typically travel around 10 days a month doing in person keynotes and training programs. Not now. It’s all online. ...
Do “Nice Guys” actually have an advantage in negotiations? It’s commonly thought that cut-throat, dog-eat-dog negotiators win, but what’s the truth? I was nervous when I started Harvard Law School in 1989. I had heard what they told incoming...
“President Trump was elected because he is an outstanding negotiator,” said White House spokesman Brian Morgenstern recently regarding the recent stimulus negotiations. He may have been elected in part due to this perception, but he is perhaps the worst presidential...
The murder of George Floyd in my hometown of Minneapolis – which I always considered a bastion of tolerance – “Minnesota nice,” right? – recently led to an interesting discussion I had about racial discrimination with a female lawyer friend who grew...
You have a Zoom video negotiation scheduled with a potential new customer. You bid the job a month ago, and you’re a finalist. You wanted to fly to New York to meet in person, but you would have been quarantined as the virus recently spiked in your state. Zoom video...
